I stopped making resolutions when I turned 40. All I was doing was setting myself up for failure. I stopped having carved in concrete goals within a year or two of that. Because every time I did my life became the epitome of the old saying “want to hear God laugh, tell him your plans”. Instead, I tried to find something that would give me direction and put structure around my goals for the year without making me carve them in stone and set myself up for disappointment. Something that would allow me to lay a path that was flexible enough to allow for inevitable change, but clear enough to keep me on the right trail.
Then my wonderful Twitterverse of friends exposed me to the annual My Three Words and I had my blueprint.
My words for 2014 – tolerance, listening and reading/writing – ending up being somewhat prophetic for what the year was going to bring. 2014 required a lot of tolerance, a lot of listening and consisted of a lot of reading, but not as much writing as I would have liked.
Following in the tradition I started in 2013, I let my three words come to me as I envisioned what I wanted from 2015. They couldn’t be just any three words though. They had to be words that embodied an overall attitude for 2015 and words that implied or would move me to action.
So here are My Three Words for 2015 –
Words – This is essentially a evolution of Reading/Writing from 2014. I want to absorb and share more words. I want to read more. I want to read many different things. I want to re-read some of the classics and my old favorites. I want to read the Bible cover to cover again and really absorb it this time. I want to write more. I want to finally take all the things that are in my head whether it is inspiration, musings, marketing and social media opinions or fictional stories and share them with the world. Lastly, I want to do more public speaking. Having spent a year away from it, I realize how much I really love speaking, training and educating. I have made a commitment to myself to do more of it this year.
Service – I learned this year the difference between saying you want to be of service to others and actually, actively, selflessly being of service to others. I have always tried to be of service to others, but this past year put me squarely into it. I realized that making the time and effort and going after opportunities to be of service is different than doing it when it comes your way. I want to do more of the first and will still accept opportunities that come the second way.
Another lesson that I have committed myself to this year is learning to let others be of service to me. I have always been the one that took care of everything and everyone, fixed everything, did it myself because it was easier/quicker than counting on someone else to do it. This year that changes. I will allow others to be of service to me. I will not rob them of the opportunity to give of themselves. I know how satisfying it feels to do so. It is time I let go and give others the space to feel the same way. I will not stop being a caretaker. It is who I am. I will start allowing others to also take care of me. This one will not be easy, but it is necessary.
Routine – This is one of those concepts that I know what it means to me but it may be a bit hard to describe to someone else. The last few years have been a unpredictable mish-mosh of being in a routine and not being in one depending on the needs of others – friends, clients, loved ones, volunteer commitments, etc… This last year has held a completely different kind of routine interrupted by frequent detours. In 2015, I want to start figuring out the routine that suits me best. Having a routine of working, speaking, reading, writing, exercising, cooking, sitting still…whatever it is, I want to figure out the rhythm of MY life and then add in all of these other things to it. I have always worked best and been happiest with a little structure in my life. For me, routine is not about only being structured. This year it is going to be about having the time, energy and focus to accomplish the things I set out to do and that still allow me to roll with spontaneity, joy, excitement and a need for stillness.
What are your words for 2015? How can I help you with achieving them?